Motherless Coping On Mother's Day

I am a fertility expert who has lead support groups, served on the board of RESOLVE and given thousands of treatments to women suffering and am currently writing a book about the emotional distress they endure during this time. Here are my professional suggestions

Girl Time: Go out with girlfriends on Mother's Day to explicity celebrate the joys of NOT being a mother and drink cocktails, stay out late and go to a weekend get away without anyone's children and absolutely not talking about children. Do the things Mother's with a lot of responsibility never get to do: stay out late, drink cocktails, sleep in. Celebrate being a woman, not a mother.

Spa Day: Indulge in a very high end spa day and explicitly tell them NOT to say "Happy Mother's Day" or "Are you a Mother"

Go Wild: Get that tatoo you always wanted. I'm serious. Once you become a Mother you feel you can't be the woman you once were. Somehow you feel as though you have to leave behind the wild, wonderous woman you once were. This of course is non-sense but celebrate the joys of being free from criticism.

Romantic Getaway: Go away for the entire weekend to a remote place that won't ask you every second if you are celebrating Mother's Day. Tell the maitre D that you are NOT a mother and do not want to be asked any questions on the subject.

Spoil Your Mom: Taking the focus off of you and putting it on your awesome Mom can help take the edge off for some. Go get pedis, facials and get food to go and sit in a park and read her your 10 favorite memories of what a great Mom she was to you.

Get Poked: Acupuncture not only enhances your fertility but it releases all the feel good hormones that help you let go of the fear about not being a mother, yet. Studies from Adelaide University have proven that if you are prescribed Traditional Chinese Medicine for Infertility you are twice as likely in 1/3 of the time to get pregnant compared to using fertility drugs or In-Vitro Fertilization IVF and an extra bonus it's a fraction of the cost.

Kristen Burris, L.Ac., M.S. is an expert in women’s health including: menopause, anti-aging and fertility. She was voted Top Doc in 2010 and Business Person of the Year in Eagle, Idaho 2011-12. Ms. Burris exceled in the 4 year graduate program at Pacific College of Oriental Medicine in San Diego and is licensed in acupuncture and Chinese herbology and was the very first alumnas to be featured on video, website and youtube, as a success in her field by her alma mater. Ms. Burris is the founder and medical director of the multi-disciplinary center: Eagle Acupuncture. Throughout her career she has also treated patients integratively at San Diego Hospice, UCSD Free Clinic, UCSD Dental Acupuncture Study and at the leading fertility centers in San Diego. The majority of her referrals are from doctors including several of the most prestigious fertility centers in the U.S and from Dr. Mehmet Oz..

Enhancing Fertility After Cancer

Preserving your fertility after cancer depends on what type of cancer, where and if the patient has sought treatment with chemotherapy, surgery or radiation yet. However, there are a lot of dietary changes and lifestyle changes you can make to combat cancer that will simutaneoulsy preserving your fertility.

Get to the point: Acupuncture has been proven to increase blood flow to reproductive organs and normalize the dysfunction of hypothalamic pituitary ovarian axis. Acupuncture improves ovarian function for women who previously have been diagnosed with annovulation a common diagnosis after cancer. It also significantly reduces stress that both having a diagnosis of cancer and struggling with fertility make the top 10 list of most stressful things a person can experience in their lifetime.ACUPUNCTURE & ELECTRO-THERAPEUTICS RES., INT. J., Vol. 22, pp. 97-108, 1997
Eat like a Rabbit: Not exactly, but it's critical to support the body with super anti-oxidants to attack free radical damage to the body and to reproductive organs that is associated with cancer.
Betacarotene is a super anti-oxidant found in cantalouple, carrots, pumpkin, mangoes, sweet potatoes.
In addition to Betacarotene, spinach and kale also have iron and help produce healthy sperm, eggs, endometrial lining which is essential for the embryo to implant in the uterus. The Spinach and Kale also have folic acid which helps prevent some birth defects.
Lycopene another major contributor to fighting free-radical damage in the body from radiation or unhealthy lifestyle includes: blood red organges, tomatoes, watermelon, guava, papaya and apricots. Eat as dried fruit or buy a nutri bullet to make fresh smoothies every day with water.
Gou Qi Berries- This is a super anti-oxdiant and it has been shown to improve follicle development (the first stage in ovulation). Eat these like raisins or add to your nutri-bullet. Extra bonus these have been used for thousands of years for women's health and infertility in China. Buy in a health food store or on-line.
Brocolli, Brussel Sprouts and Cauliflower: not only do they carry cancer fighting ant-oxidants, but they also are able to metabolize estrogen, excellent for women who have cancers fed by excess estrogen. These women should avoid yams as they act as anti-estrogens tricking the brain into making more estrogen.

Kristen Burris, L.Ac., M.S.T.O.M., Dip. Ac. was voted Top Doc 2010 in Eagle and Business Person of the Year 2011-2012. She is the founder and medical director of Eagle Acupuncture. She is a nationally-recognized practitioner in the field of women’s health: menopause, irregular menstrual cycles, migraines, digestive problems, pain and fertility enhancement. Ms. Burris combines her skills of acupuncture, Chinese herbal medicine, and nutrition with her compassionate approach to promote health in her patients. Kristen Burris has been featured in USA Today, Woman’s Day, MSNBC, Yahoo News, Parents, Parenting, Natural Health,& Better Nutrition magazines, The San Diego Union Tribune, The Miami Herald, NPR radio, KBOI TV and KUSI TV. Ms. Burris taught graduate school at Pacific College of Oriental Medicine in San Diego, California, one of the most respected colleges in the field of integrative medicine. Throughout her career she has also treated patients at: San Diego Hospice, UC-San Diego Free Clinic, UC-San Diego Dental Acupuncture Study and at the leading fertility centers in California.